To call my relationship with organized religion, and God complicated is under selling it. Dealing with a Catholic mass and everything that came with it for my mom was a pretty tremendous challenge for me. I heard a whole lot of platitudes that made me angry.
This morning’s breakfast table groupthink also produced:
1. You’re next.
2. I didn’t know he/she was sick.
3. Couldn’t have happened to a better person.
Great piece, Jared. A couple other things, though well intentioned, that I've often heard that can be unhelpful are:
"I know how you feel." No, you don't.
"Your (deceased loved one) would want you to be happy (wouldn't want you to be sad)." Okay, well, I am sad. Thanks for checking in.
YES! And how do you know what my deceased loved one would want?
You know how I feel? Numb and thirsting for a tumbler of vodka and ice?
To call my relationship with organized religion, and God complicated is under selling it. Dealing with a Catholic mass and everything that came with it for my mom was a pretty tremendous challenge for me. I heard a whole lot of platitudes that made me angry.