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May 31Liked by Jared Paventi

Thanks for sharing. The anger in my family runs deep as well. So deep, in fact, that my dying sister asked to only see "some'' of her siblings when she passed away nine months ago at 64. When my 68-year-old brother was diagnosed with terminal cancer in February, he spent the last 19 days of his life with his children, my sister, myself, my brother and my one niece. My 93-year-old father, when told his son was dying, shrugged his shoulders and said "Oh well.'' My youngest brother, who my dying brother asked to see, refused to visit him. I learned a lot during those 19 days - about selflessness and selfishness. I also learned that some people truly believe that hiding behind a grudge is the way to avoid handling the tough stuff in life, like the death of a sibling/child. How truly pathetic.

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Grudges become the blankets we cloak ourselves in when we don't know how or want to work at fixing the problems at hand. And, I'm sorry for your family's terrible run of loss in the past year or so.

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Grief can truly make people bitter. Another great read, Jared.

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